Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Unsettled

Today I was talking to a friend in my ward about our upcoming move. She asked me if the move was stressing me out. I told her that it isn't really stressing me out. While I don't want the move to drag out for a long time, we are lucky that we don't have a have-to-be-out date for this house. We will move over bit by bit over the next two weeks.

Then she asked if all the moving around we do makes me feel unsettled or unsatisfied with life. I thought about it for a moment and then told her no. She asked me how that was possible. So I told her that if I waited to be settled to be happy I would have been waiting and unhappy for the last 9 years. I also told her that I was single for a long time and pretty much hated the last couple years of my single life. Meeting and marrying Allen was such a blessing and I TRULY feel that with him by my side I can do anything. I know the life that we have chosen is not for everyone. Half of the time I wonder what the heck we're doing and yearn to have permanent residence somewhere. But for right now we know this is right and I feel so blessed to have a wonderful man by my side to work through the joys and trials of mortal life. He is my best friend, my soul mate and my perfect match in every way. I never dreamed that someone so perfect for me actually existed, let alone that we would find each other.

What a poignant conversation for me to have today, on our 9th anniversary. Happy Anniversary sweetheart! I love you! {To Eternity and Beyond!}

13 comments:

Jan Russell said...

Happy Anniversary!!!

LJABC and D said...

Happy anniversary to you!! I love the idea of blooming where you're planted. People look at me like I'm crazy all the time when I tell them that Lewis still won't be done for 3 years, but it's worth it!! I have a thing in my house that says "it's not where you go in life. it's who you have beside you" and I love it. Great reminder Monique!

LJABC and D said...

oh, and great find (the desk)!! I miss the Conn. tag sales like crazy.

Melissa said...

Totally true. I feel so unsettled right now in some big ways, and remind myself all the time (or Brian reminds me) that I ultimately have who and what I need right now, and the rest will come. And oh, don't I remember those final single years? I would not re-live them for anything, but I also wouldn't trade 'em for the world. Love ya, and happy anniversary again. I knew on that road trip to Utah with you and Allen when you guys were dating that there were big things in store. :)

Meghan said...

First of all, Happy Anniversary!

Secondly, I love what you said.

In a lot of ways, I feel the exact same. (About my husband and all this moving around.) I mean who would have guessed we'd end up in Missi-FREAKIN'-ippi. But we are in this for the long haul and if we aren't happy by now, we're missing the big picture. Joy in the journey, right? Great perspective Q!

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lnkmom said...

Happy Anniversary!!! We are just a half year behind you!

I'm glad you have such a great perspective. You have given me alot to think about. I'm at the point I don't want to do anything to this house cause I don't want to be here... and that's a bad way to live!

Amy Coons said...

Happy Anniversary! How did I not realize earlier that your anniversary is just one day after ours? We just counted #11.

It was nice to read your post. :) Husbands ARE great. :)

Camille said...

Monique, I completely agree with you. As much as I love being settled (at least for the moment), moving around is such a strengthening and bonding experience for a family. Not only is it great to help your kids learn to adjust and make friends and all those things that moving teaches you, but your kids will also learn how important family is. That no matter where you go, your family stays together and that is what really matters. Good for you guys, you are doing great things!

LJ said...

I'm settled now, and I'm dying to be unsettled. But that's because we don't have kids and I have the itchy foot.

Kristi said...

Happy Anniversary!

What a blessing to spend life and beyond with your very best friend. So glad you found each other. :)

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary, though a day late. Funny, I was thinking of your wedding day all of yesterday. Do you remember how you wanted to get married on 30 Apr and I encouraged you to wait another week because of the unpredictable weather we have in April in Colorado. You two won out and the weekend after, in May, it snowed like crazy! The day of your wedding? 80 degrees! How'd you know? I've tried to second guess you ever since, to no avail! You're great and yes it is so nice to have someone beside you for forever that you love dearly!
Mom

Laurie said...

I'm so happy for you two - you are the best, together forever! Happy anniversary, again! Best wishes with the move, and so glad you found the black desk set (a "tender mercy" - from Peoria, no less!) love you. Mom Frost